Whether you’re single and trying to call in that relationship in your life, or if you already have a partner and you would like to deepen that relationship; maybe some of those relationships in your life have gone on autopilot and you’re ready to really deepen the intimacy and the connection so that you can have greater joy in your life, this exercise here is for you. I have found this exercise to be very helpful for clients that I’ve worked with who are trying to either call in that relationship in their life, or deepen an existing relationship. Take out a piece of paper and write down the top fifty qualities that are important to you in a partner or in a relationship. This might be things like, you want somebody who’s kind, maybe it’s around what their spiritual beliefs are, maybe you’re looking for somebody who’s spontaneous, or who loves to laugh, or is financially independent. Take some time and write down fifty qualities. After about twenty qualities, you might have to stretch your imagination but don’t stop until you get to fifty. Once you have your list, pick what those top five qualities are. Which ones are the most important to you as you’re trying to deepen the relationship in your life or where you’re calling in that partner? What I’m going to invite you to do is a little bit of introspection, and look at those top five qualities. Ask yourself, “how am i showing up here?”
If I want somebody who’s spontaneous, where’s the spontaneity in my life right now?
If I’m looking for somebody who loves adventure and fun and travel, when was the last time you went on a trip?
If you’re looking for somebody who’s a great communicator, where in your life could you be a better communicator?
There’s a great saying in the personal development world that we don’t attract what we want, we attract who we are. As you start to live into those qualities that are important to you, you’re now operating at that vibration or frequency, so you can call in that person who also embodies those same qualities and values. Instead of looking for it outside, the question is “how am I showing up here?” Where can I turn up the volume and turn up my ability to live into these qualities? And by doing that, watch those relationships in your life start to deepen, and watch people and new people and opportunities start to come into your life. So take some time, what are those top qualities?
I would love to hear from you! Comment below, what’s most important to you, and how can you embody that quality more in your life?
To you living a life you love,