I released a video last year that I think is just as relevant today. So many of us are heading back to the office, kids are back in school and enrolled into sports and activities, and we are again facing some anxiety and worry about different factors. I thought I would remind you of the tools you can use right now that will help you through.
The uncertainty we are facing now causes a lot of stress and anxiety, and there’s that part of us that’s worried about “Am I being irresponsible? Am I overprotective or overreacting? Am I not being protective enough? What should I do? What’s the best thing for my kids, for my family, for my friends?” This can feel really spiralling, when we get into the “what should I do” conversation.
I wanted to offer you three ways to help really calm that uncertainty today and to support you in making decisions and moving forward in a way that you can feel really good about.
So let’s start by taking a deep breath here. There’s nothing to look back on in most of our history to really compare to what we’re navigating right now as parents, as employees, as business owners. That uncertainty can be really triggering. So how do we manage it?
Recognize that every major event in history, if we look to our world wars, if we look back to the Spanish flu, there was a beginning, a middle, and an end to it. And it’s the same with this. There’s a beginning, we’re in the middle, and there will be an end to it. No, we don’t know when and we don’t know how long, and it’s been a long time. But have that confidence that although it’s something you’re navigating right now, it does have a beginning, and a middle, and will come to an end. When we recognize that, it can calm our nervous system and help us to make better decisions.
Secondly, we get to ask ourselves. “if i know that this has a beginning, a middle, and end, who do I want to be in the meantime?” Ten years from now, when you’re looking back at this time, how do you want to have shown up? When you think about telling stories about this time in your life, how do you want to have shown up for your kids and for yourself? Really make some decisions about who do you want to have been? And what are some of those qualities that you want to have embodied? To have been kind, to have been proactive, to have made the best of it, make some advanced decisions about how do I want to show up right now? And as you find yourself maybe spinning in the uncertainty and fatigue of all of this, just taking that breath and ask yourself who do I want to have been? How do I want to show up here? This will help you show up as your best self.
The third thing that’s been really helpful to me, and I hope that it serves you as well, is reminding myself of Napoleon Hill’s words. Napoleon Hill studied some of the most successful people on the planet and codified what created their success. One of the themes that he discovered, and he put it this way, that within every adversity there’s a seed of an equal or greater benefit. Not some adversities, but every adversity has a seed of an equal or greater benefit. We’re in a pretty major adversity right now, and so with that massive adversity, if we believe Napoleon Hill’s words and all of the people that he studied, there also exists this massive seed of opportunity. There’s so much potential within that seed, but as with every seed, we’ve got to plant it, we have to nurture it, we have to harvest it. If we know that within every adversity, there exists opportunity, let’s start looking for those opportunities. Get curious about what good can come from this challenge. What could go right? What could the benefits be? And as we start to get curious and look for those seeds of equal or greater benefit, they’ll start to reveal themselves to us.
What I would also love to say to you right now is that you are doing a great job. Whatever decisions you’re making is in the best interest of yourself and your family.
To you living a life you love,