Today we’re talking about plateauing. I am going to give you three things to look at to know if you’ve plateaued in your life.
Income. One of the places to look is to your income. Have you been making around the same amount of money for multiple years?
Experiencing the same problems despite changes. Maybe you’ve changed jobs, you’ve moved and changed neighborhoods, but yet you’re still having the same problems that you thought would go away by making that change in your life?
Relationships. The third area to look at is in your relationships. Are you finding that maybe those most important relationships in your life are on autopilot? Are you doing the same things day after day, week after week, you’re having the same conversations or arguments over and over again?
These are three indicators that you’re experiencing some plateau in your life. It’s time to shake things up!
Today is my wedding anniversary, Jeff and I were married 16 years ago. We had created a dream for our wedding, and we actually were married in Costa Rica, surrounded by some of our best friends and family. Relationship is one of the areas where it’s really easy to plateau. When we’re newly in love and newly married, we’ve got these big dreams and these big goals, and pretty soon we find ourselves settling into the rhythm of day-to-day life that doesn’t just happen in our marriages and our relationships, but it happens in every area.
Are you a salesperson, who has created a certain income level, and maybe you’re making about the same amount, month after month, year after year.
We tend to fall into these patterns and into these rhythms, and if we’re not careful, it’s like the doldrums. We don’t even realize we’re in a pattern, because things are going okay, there’s no big dissatisfaction, but we’re just kind of going with the flow. If we’re not careful, we’ll find ourselves settling. Settling is okay for a short period of time, but you were meant to grow. You were meant to expand. You were meant to experience even greater life.
That settling energy can be quite dangerous, because life becomes really comfortable and easy, and we don’t even realize that maybe there’s some discontent starting to settle in.
So how do we overcome those plateaus?
First of all, it requires us noticing them. Take some time for self-reflection, really look at your life, and ask the question, “where am I settling?” For me, I did this self-assessment a number of years ago now, where i woke up one morning and i didn’t want to go to work. That was very unusual for me, because I was one of those people that loved my job. But as I really gave myself permission to check in, I realized I hadn’t been happy for a long time. I was living in the rhythm, and just tolerating it, not realizing that there was actually quite a bit of discontent. That discontent, if we’re not careful, can start to express itself in other areas of our life. We start to have health challenges, we have problems in our finances, or we start to have this disruption in our relationships. Life is seeking greater expression through you, and it’s going to find a way to express itself. We want to make sure that we’re taking that energy, and we’re directing it positively and more intentionally. So it starts with doing that check-in.
Once we start to become aware of that, then we have the power to change it. We have the power to start to create a picture of a new idea. We do that by asking the question “what would I love?” Maybe it’s dusting off some old ideas about what it meant to be in relationship. Challenge yourself and ask, what if I gave myself permission to really look at, could I earn more money? Could I be happier in the job that I’m doing? Is there a hobby that I would like to pick up, that I just never felt like I had the time for? Give yourself permission to dream – to ask that question what would I love?
Make a commitment to start taking action towards that. What can you do now to start to shake up the rhythm of your day-to-day life? Is it driving to work differently? Is it engaging your partner in a different conversation? Is it starting to plan a different type of vacation? What could you do to interrupt that pattern or that plateau and start to inject some more fun, play, or do something that’s more exciting? And by doing that, just notice how you start to feel more alive!
One of the things that i’m so proud of in my marriage to Jeff is that we stay in that question, what would we love. And is it perfect? Of course not. But one of the things that we’ve done, is we’ve really committed to grow together, and to pursue those passions, and I believe that that’s what keeps our relationship growing deeper and deeper.
So where have you plateaued? Give yourself permission to really ask yourself the question, what would you love, and what’s one way you can start to interrupt those patterns and start to inject a little bit more fun or excitement in your life>
Here is to you living a life you love,